Franklin James Cook

For Survivors, Holiday Season Can Be a Balancing Act

In Grief on December 6, 2008 at 12:11 am

ORIGINAL STORY — The Florence Times Daily tells the story of Suzie Terry 18 months after her husband died by suicide.

Terry, a Decatur [Ala.] resident who has attended group therapy sessions on suicide at the Healing Place in Tuscumbia [Fla.], says she’s run the gamut of emotions, from anger to pure sadness to the feeling of having to be strong and not show emotions for the sake of other family members and friends.

Now, as another holiday season approaches, Terry’s largest challenge has been “finding the balance between moving on with her life and paying proper honor to the life of her husband.”

“Our family dynamic is different now,” she said. “It’s not just financial changes and all the obvious things that have changed, but traditions have changed. We have to establish some new ones and we’re doing that. Last year at Christmas, we did some of the usual things, but added some new traditions, like decorating our tree differently.”

Terry said what she wants other suicide survivors to know is that “however you feel is fine as long as you feel something.”

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